Spirituality Is About Changing Your Own Limits: A Path to Conscious Growth and Inner Freedom

Spirituality is not about becoming someone new—it is about unlearning what no longer serves you. It is the journey of expanding beyond self-imposed limits and returning to your authentic self.

From the moment we are born, we adapt. We learn who to be, how to behave, what to think, and how to survive in the world around us. Much of this learning happens unconsciously, shaped by family, culture, education, and early emotional experiences. Over time, these adaptations become beliefs—beliefs about who we are, what we deserve, and what is possible for us.

But the most important question on the spiritual path is this:

Do our beliefs and ways of thinking support our highest potential—or do they quietly hold us back?

Although this question can challenge everything we think we know, it opens the door to a life lived by conscious choice rather than by the default patterns of our upbringing.

The Role of the Mind in Spiritual Growth

The mind plays a powerful role in our spiritual evolution. By design, the mind seeks safety and familiarity. It prefers what is known—even if what is known is unhealthy, limiting, or painful.

The mind does not naturally distinguish between:

• what is familiar

• and what is truly beneficial

As a result, it often reinforces old patterns, fears, and limitations while resisting new perspectives that could lead to growth and healing.

This is why true transformation requires conscious awareness.

When we become conscious of our thoughts, inner dialogue, and belief systems, we reclaim our power. Awareness is the first step toward dissolving self-imposed limitations and gently peeling back the layers of the past.

Becoming Aware of Your Inner Landscape

The journey of spiritual growth begins by noticing:

• how you think

• how you speak to yourself

• the subtle voice of your inner critic

• the beliefs that quietly govern your decisions and reactions

While this process may initially feel overwhelming, it does not have to be complicated. There are simple, grounded spiritual practices that help you begin the process of unbecoming—and finding your way back to yourself.

Spiritual Step #1: Dive Within Through Journaling

When clients ask, “How do I know what to work on?” I always guide them to look at the areas of life that feel stuck, painful, or unfulfilled.

When our personal or professional desires fail to manifest despite sincere effort, the cause is often unconscious beliefs operating beneath the surface.

A Simple Journaling Exercise

1. Find a quiet, comfortable space free from distractions.

2. Begin with a few minutes of simple breathing—box breathing works well.

   • Inhale for 4 counts

   • Hold for 4

   • Exhale for 4

   • Hold for 4

3. Allow your body and mind to settle.

Then, using a pen and paper or a digital journal, reflect on these prompts:

• Identify one limiting belief you currently hold about yourself, life, or a situation.

• Ask yourself:

  • Where did this belief originate?

  • Is this belief an absolute truth—or is there even a small possibility that it is not?

• Write down real-life examples that contradict this belief.

• Notice when and how this belief shows up in your daily life.

• Create a gentle, empowering statement you can repeat whenever you notice this belief arising.

This practice builds self-awareness and weakens the unconscious hold of limiting beliefs.

Spiritual Step #2: Connect With Your Inner Child

Your inner child is always communicating with you.

She speaks through:

• emotional triggers

• feelings of fear, doubt, sadness, or anxiety

• moments of overwhelm or hopelessness

Although these emotions may feel uncomfortable, they are not obstacles—they are gateways to healing.

Triggers point to places within us that need attention and compassion. Fears reveal the limits we carry. When we connect with our inner child, we return to the root of these emotions and heal them at their source.

A Gentle Inner Child Connection Practice

1. Sit or lie down in a quiet space.

2. Take three slow, deep breaths.

3. Scan your body and mentally whisper the word RELAX as you release tension.

4. Visualize yourself sitting beside your inner child.

Then gently ask her:

• What do you need most from me right now?

• When fear or doubt arises, what are you trying to tell me?

• What is the next loving step I can take to heal these emotions—for both of us?

Listen without judgment. This practice fosters safety, trust, and deep emotional healing.

Spiritual Step #3: Say a Prayer or Mantra

Healing and self-discovery can feel vulnerable and, at times, frightening. Prayer and mantra help anchor us in faith, trust, and inner strength.

One powerful and widely practiced mantra is Ho’oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian prayer for forgiveness and love.

Ho’oponopono Practice

1. Close your eyes.

2. Place your hands gently over your heart.

3. Repeat the following words slowly at least five times:

4. I am sorry.

5. Please forgive me.

6. I love you.

7. Thank you.

Then conclude with a prayer such as:

I know there is a power that protects me, and this power lives within me at all times.I am safe.There is nothing to fear.I am healing.

You may adapt these words to align with your beliefs and inner guidance.

Embracing the Path of Conscious Spiritual Growth

Your spiritual journey may feel uncertain or challenging at times—but know this:

You are protected. You are guided. And there is far more power and potential within you than your logical mind can comprehend.

Spirituality is not about perfection. It is about presence, awareness, and compassion toward yourself.

Embrace where you are. Honor your pace. And remember—healing is always available to you.